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When it comes to online dating, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed by choices. Not all dating sites are created equally; many are confusing, some are for very “interesting” users, and others are totally sleazy. With nearly 1 in 3 marriages stemming from online dating, you can’t afford to be wasting time on the wrong site.
Zoosk’s interface is not only easy to use, it’s built to showcase your best matches clearly and easily. Chatting, e-mailing, and sending flirty winks are easier than ever. We want you looking for love–not figuring out how to use the site. Since we’re the #1 Dating App, it’s safe to say we provide the best user experience possible.
The best part? Getting started is easy. Instead of spending hours filling out a lengthy questionnaire, you can start your online dating after finishing a brief narrative. Zoosk’s unique Behavioral Matchmaking™ technology will take care of the rest.
But don’t take our word for it. Watch Mike and Kristy, another happily married Zoosk couple, tell you their story.
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Aaron was looking for love and didn’t know exactly where to start: “I knew the bar scene wasn’t going to be the right place. So, when that free trial for Zoosk showed up, I thought–why not?” Good thing Aaron gave Zoosk a try. If he hadn’t , he would’ve missed Nikki, the love of his life.
So, how did their love story begin?
“Her picture showed her looking cute in a sweatshirt in front of a local wing place. She had this beautiful smile and looked really happy. This was a profile that could not be faked. She was real and looked totally comfortable being herself. I gave her a wink and then I sent her a message. I knew I had to join Zoosk to keep the conversation going. It was worth it.”
A first date over bingo couldn’t have gone better: ”So, I can’t stand bingo, but I knew if I wanted to meet this girl. I was going to play some bingo. I remember talking to Nikki the whole night. It must’ve looked like we were having fun because one of the other bingo players asked us how long we’ve been married! I drove Nikki home after bingo to make sure she got there safely. Right before I dropped her off, I gave her a kiss. I tried to get a second one, but she denied it– I knew right then that she was the one for me.”
This happy Zoosk couple is getting ready for a spring wedding! We couldn’t be happier for them!
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From Jersey Shore to Mixology to Girls, single living takes a beating on TV. Women are painted in a bad light—portrayed as promiscuous or desperate. Men are also facing negative portrayals when it appears that they’re only after one thing time and time again. The trailer to Bravo’s latest show, Online Dating Rituals of the American Male, isn’t doing anyone any favors—especially men who are looking for love online.
Most guys who online date don’t adhere to these stereotypes, and not all dating sites attract the same type of user. Zoosk goes beyond your dating preferences to show you matches based on your actual behavior. For example, if you are clicking on outdoorsy men, Zoosk will show you more outdoorsy men—and less movie buff types. This kind of technological horsepower isn’t necessary for finding a hookup, but Zoosk users aren’t typically looking for hookups.
According to a recent poll, almost 86% of Zoosk users are looking for a long-term relationship. And no, that’s not just the ladies. 87% of Zoosk guys are looking for a serious relationship. What prompts these relationship-minded men to join Zoosk? One user responded, “I’m looking for a quality woman that I can end up with. Joining an online dating site with people that want something serious makes sense. Trying to meet women at the bar doesn’t.”
Surprisingly, intelligence surpassed sexiness as the second most important quality. Although it’s not surprising to learn that men ranked sexiness higher than women, the emphasis on trust reveals that our Zoosk guys are more interested in the qualities that endure, not the qualities that fade over time.
Dear Joan Actually
Finally, I found someone awesome. He’s a great guy, but he’s still in touch with his ex. I can’t stand it. They don’t hang out a lot, but they definitely still talk. I want to be cool about this, but I don’t want to get hurt. Should I ask him to end it? How can I do that without sounding crazy?
The beginning stages of any relationship require adjustment. Unfortunately, this may include adjusting to your guy’s old news. It’s not easy to discuss the ex diplomatically. Since you don’t know much about her, you can start thinking that she was some kind of mythical goddess and feel a little threatened. It’s easy to let these feelings get a little out of hand and, when you do, you’re guaranteed to show off some very unattractive behavior.
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Bouncing back from divorce is not easy, but Stan wanted another chance at love. After weighing his options, he decided to give Zoosk a try. Now that he’s met Kasi, things are looking up, but making the original decision to give online dating a try wasn’t easy:
“So there I was. In my mid-thirties and starting my life over. I passed the part of my life where going to bars to find women is an option. The chances of my soul mate passing me in the street are slim to none. Also, I’m a dad; I want to make sure I spend my time around the right people. I turned to Zoosk after their cleverly placed ads on Facebook finally captured my attention. What else did I have to lose? It was worth a shot.”
After perusing profiles, Stan found Kasi’s smiling picture: “She was beautiful! I had to send her a message and let her know that I was a normal, good guy. It wasn’t soon after that when I realized that it was like we were separated at birth.”
Stan took advantage of Zoosk’s mobile messaging app to continue conversations with Kasi: “the mobile app made it easier for me to talk to her when I was away from the computer. I guess it paid off, because we scheduled a meeting pretty soon after our first messages.”
And that meeting could not have gone better.
“When I saw her—that first moment—it was just magic. Like a fairy tale. I was sold. Well, actually, I was sold before I even met her, but when she was standing there, I was so happy. The conversation started up immediately. We barely even ate and, instead, talked for hours.”
After their first meeting, Stan and Kasi have yet to spend a weekend apart; they are looking forward to building more happy memories together in and around Savannah, Georgia.
Congratulations, Kasi and Stan. We are so happy you two took a chance on Zoosk and found each other!
Dear Joan Actually,
I’ve been seeing this girl for about 2 months and things have been going well. She’s super fun and the chemistry is there, but she has disgusting breath. At first, it was a little gross, but now it’s overpowering. It’s so nasty that I don’t feel like kissing her anymore. She’s been asking what’s up. What do I do?
Baby, I can’t imagine your struggle. And, also, I commend you for surviving two months with someone whose mouth smells like road kill and farts. Bringing up bad breath is awkward. So awkward, in fact, that most people would rather let the relationship fizzle than bring it up. Since you’ve made a two-month investment and everything else is working out, you’re going to have to suck it up and have a talk.
DID YOU JUST CRINGE? EVERYONE ELSE DID, TOO.
Here’s how you’re going to approach this:
Look at it this way—if you don’t say anything, the relationship will end, so you might as well bring it up. See diagram below for reasoning:
Like your taxes, you’ll want to put this off, but you’re better off working towards a solution than inhaling toxic fumes.
Need some help or advice? An objective know-it-all third party might be exactly exactly what the doctor ordered. E-mail me at JoanActually [at] zoosk [dot] com.
Cartoon Credits: Mary DiPasquale
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Zoosk’s unique Behavioral Matchmaking™ technology goes beyond user input to make a love connection. In Kristy’s case, the matchmaking software learned her click patterns and messaging style to show her the best possible matches. Well, it worked. And, when a real match works, it changes everything. Watch how these two met, fell in love, and, eventually, walked down the aisle.
Kristy and Mike found love and happiness, and there’s no reason you can’t do the same. Here’s what you can learn from Kristy and Mike’s experience:
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Feeling like you’re on a perpetual quest for love? Well, you’re not alone. As a matter of fact, we have over 25 million users in your same boat. At Zoosk, we want to make it even easier to help you find the right person. In addition to our success stories, the blog will now feature practical information and a no-nonsense advice column. Whether it’s what to wear on a first date or what to do when an ex calls, the blog will include responses to some of your most frequently asked questions.
Although we’ve got amazing analytics and an arsenal of experts to help you out, these things will only take you so far. Your courage to take risks in love and put yourself out there is going to be the ultimate decider of your success.
Since “putting yourself out there” is a bit vague, I wanted to show you how some of our animal counterparts are getting the job done.
When a blue crab’s diet is almost 25% other blue crabs, under-the-sea dating starts looking more like The Hunger Games. Females will emit an intoxicating smell that suppresses the appetites of the male crabs. Then, after she meets the right pair of claws, she will release a second chemical that encourages the male crab to cuddle her. During cuddle time, the male will use a couple legs to strap her on his back and, together, they explore the ocean floor.
Lesson Learned: Choose your fragrance wisely and you could find yourself in a week-long cuddle session. Choose poorly, and you could be eaten alive.
Male Galapagos Tortoises are always looking for ladies. If two males meet while on the prowl, they will stand on their legs and start a neck stretching contest to determine who gets to romance the female tortoise. Whereas the bigger tortoise is guaranteed some action, the smaller will slink away. Frustrated and desperate, the smaller tortoise will attempt romantic interludes with a variety of non-interested parties, including other males and boulders.
Lesson Learned: Although your friends probably won’t get naked with you, they’ll still hang out with you if your romantic attempt doesn’t pan out. So, you might as well take a risk and say hello.
Once the male polar bear finds his favorite she-bear, he will follow her for miles through freezing arctic terrain. For days, he will literally walk in her footsteps until he catches up. Once the two meet, they will nuzzle each other and play together for hours. If all goes well during the heavy petting session, the lady polar bear will lead her guy to a private place, so they can get down without interruption.
Lesson Learned: Persistence and a little effort can pay off big.
Nursery Web Spiders
To grease the romance wheels, male nursery web spiders will present females with gifts packaged neatly in silk. Because the mating window is only as long as the time it takes for her to inspect—and potentially eat—her gift, it’s in his best interest to get her a large, tasty snack dressed up in nice packaging. Although most males play fair, those who missed etiquette 101 presented their females with subpar fly meat. Even worse; however, were the super cheap male flies that presented empty silk-wrapped packages.
Lesson Learned: When it comes to gift giving, a little thought goes a long way. Also, do not confuse being financially responsible with being a stingy tightwad.
Male bowerbirds spend all their time building ornate love dens to attract potential mates. From an early age, the male will scour the area for branches, leaves, snail shells—even pieces of shiny litter—to decorate his bachelor pad. To improve his real estate, he will clear out every piece of surrounding grass and build a luxurious entry way to encourage visitors. Once the male completes construction, he invites the ladies to check out his digs and woos them with an ornate song and dance routine during their visit.
Lesson Learned: When you’re ready to get serious, make sure you’re not operating from your parents’ basement.
Zoosk has partnered with Dunkin’ Donuts this Valentine’s Day to help you make your holiday a little sweeter! Dunkin’ Donuts is offering a nice deal for anyone seeking their own perfect pairing on Zoosk.
As part of this partnership Zoosk conducted an online survey of 14,161 singles to see if coffee brews romance. Guess what coffee lovers? It does!
–We found out that coffee beats dinner when it comes to a great first date. Exactly two-thirds (67%) of Zooskers feel that having a casual conversation over coffee would be the ideal first date with someone they just met online. Going out to fancy dinner was a distant second at 24%.
–Nearly 72% of people said that that going out for coffee can be just as romantic as a fancy dinner.
–More than half of people (51%) said they would rather receive a fresh cup of coffee from their sweetheart than fresh flowers.
–French Vanilla was number one when singles were asked to identify the most romantic coffee flavor, followed by Caramel.
Check out the full infographic, below!
Zoosk was so effective for Ben because our Behavioral Matchmaking™ technology started learning his preferences the moment he signed on. Within a matter of days Ben met CarrieAnn while online dating on our service. Not only was CarrieAnn mutually attracted to Ben, but she turned out to be the love of his life.
“Three days after signing up for Zoosk, I stumbled upon CarrieAnn’s profile. I returned to her profile many times before mustering the courage to send her a wink. To my surprise she winked back. We had been traveling the same type of path through life, and at that moment our paths came together.
I never knew that just sitting back and watching someone live a life could make me melt and fall in love. Simply put, she is hands down the greatest woman I have ever met, and I couldn’t be more honored and excited to be hers forever. Thank you Zoosk from CarrieAnn and Ben, in love now and forever and always!”
Congratulations Ben and CarrieAnn! We’re so happy that you – and so many other people around the world – have found everlasting love on Zoosk!