“I saw him looking cute in his purple shirt and decided to send him a quick message,” said Jana. Soon after exchanging a few messages, Jana met Jeffrey for the first time over dinner. “We knew something was different when we met,” she said. “We laughed the entire time.”
Now, ten months later, Jana is happy with her soul mate by her side: ”He’s just different from every guy I’ve met. He keeps his promises. Not only is he the best partner for me, he’s the best father to my son.”
Dear Joan Actually
So, I brought my girlfriend to my parents’ house for the weekend. After arriving and making some introductions, the girlfriend and I headed upstairs. Some unpacking led to some undressing and, well, you know. Anyways, without knocking, my mother opened the door and caught us in the middle of an “intimate situation”. She was obviously horrified and has been acting weird ever since. It’s been a month since the incident. Do I say something? Should I let more time pass?
Wow. An event that’s equally humiliating for all parties involved. I would venture to say things are especially tough for the girlfriend; I’m sure she was aiming for a different kind of memorable impression. After discussing your problem with a psychotherapist and a dating expert, I have good news and bad news. The good news is that you don’t need to put yourself up for adoption; the bad news is that you’ll need to talk to mom about what she saw.
Tina B. Tessina, dating and relationship author, suggests clearing the air: “A lot depends on the relationship you have with your parents, but talking with them is usually the best idea.” Even though there will be some awkwardness, it could be worse: “Today’s parents might be shocked, but they’re usually more understanding about sexual issues than the older generations were,” says Tina.
Dating and relationship expert, Dina Colada, says tread lightly with your upcoming talk. “Discussing the situation with your parents is an option, but bringing attention to intimate details will make the elephant in the room seem like a brontosaurus,” she says. “If you do decide to mention it, tell your parents that you love spending time with them and you want to move past the awkwardness so you can continue to have good times together.”
Since the good times depend on you breaking the tension, you should face the music and get this awkward conversation underway. Remember, the “intimate situation” doesn’t warrant a discussion, just some acknowledgement.
“Mom, sorry about the awkward situation last weekend. Let’s forget that ever happened.”
“I hope we can get back to normal soon, because [insert holiday] is right around the corner.”
After you say something, everyone will be able to relax. Yes, what happened is mortifying, but your parents are no strangers to “intimate situations”. Dina summed it up best: “Every embarrassing moment leads to a valuable lesson, and you will only have to learn this one once. You will always lock the door and I can guarantee your mother will never ever forget to knock.”
At Zoosk, we’re never caught with our pants down. But, if you are, we can help. E-mail your question or problem to joanactually at zoosk dot com.
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Zoosk wants to know more about the way you date. Help us figure out what YOU want.
We asked 5 top travel bloggers to submit their top 5 most beautiful romantic destinations from around the world. Exotic beaches, plush rainforests, majestic mountains made the list, and it’s easy to see why.
The Traveling Panties recommends:
1. Kruger National Park, South Africa
3. Koh Samui, Thailand
5. Carmelo, Uruguay
When you’re looking to getaway, The BikeHike suggests:
1. Sahara Desert, Morocco
2. Rocky Mountains, Canada
3. Cappadocia, Turkey
4. Monteverde, Costa Rica
5. Dalmation Coast, Croatia
Ever In Transit’s Cassie Kifer had trouble leaving:
1. Frenchman’s Cove Beach, Jamaica
2. Molokai, United States
3. Atami, Japan
4. Mendocino, United States
5. Torres del Paine National Park, Chile
The Travel Bite says you’re missing out if you don’t visit:
1. Hermanus, South Africa
2. Seaside, Florida
3. Bologna, Italy
4. Dubrovnik, Croatia
5. Puerto Vallarta, Mexico
Globetrotter, Jenny McIver, says grab your passport and head to the following:
1. Aitutaki, Cook Islands
2. Easter Island, Chile
3. Ile des Pins, New Calcedonia
4. Pleneau Bay, Antarctica
5. Sulawesi, Indonesia
If you haven’t packed your bags yet, contributor Corina Quinn reminds you why exploration is always a good idea: “Anyone who’s been struck by the travel bug—or a full-fledged case of wanderlust—knows the rewards that come with exploring new terrain. The triumph of navigating a city where your language is barely known; the suspense of ordering blind off a menu then becoming giddy by what’s brought out on the plate; the awe of viewing a monument older than you can count; the hollowness in your chest when you come home changed in ways only discernible within. It’s a heady mix that can make you keenly present in your life and in the moment. Few things beat sharing those discoveries with the person you love.”
Our daters aren’t the only ones in love these days; Zoosk employees are loving their careers. After surveying employees at hundreds of companies across the Bay Area, The San Francisco Business Times ranked Zoosk as the #31 Best Medium Size company to work for in the entire region!
If you want to empower everyone to lead a more fulfilling love life (our mission!) and wouldn’t mind upgrading to an office that welcomes your furry pet, hosts catered dinner every night, and invites the occasional masseuse or harpist to relax and entertain – you’ll love working at Zoosk!
If you’re an ambitious self starter who frequently thinks outside the box, we hope you’ll peruse our list of openings.
Find your perfect career match at http://www.zoosk.com/careers.
After Zoosk introduced Jennifer and Jeremiah, sparks flew immediately. One coffee date later, the two were inseparable. Two years after meeting for coffee, Jennifer and Jeremiah visited Disney World and experienced a vacation they would never forget…Jeremiah proposed! Jennifer writes: “Zoosk, I want to thank you so much for helping me meet Jeremiah.”
We wish Jennifer and Jeremiah so much love and happiness!
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After Zoosk introduced Minette to Pine, the couple was inseparable. A single date in early September led to a perfect partnership. After selling her house and moving to closer to Pine, Minette couldn’t been happier:
“Everything just fell into place as we proceeded with our relationship. I am so blessed to have this wonderful man in my life. Both our previous marriages were happy, but we lost our partners to cancer. There is so much that we share, because we have the same outlook on life and have shared similar experiences. We both are deep Christians, and I think that this makes our relationship so much stronger. We also both love music and play together a lot, which is also deepening our relationship. In December 2013, we got married; it’s a wonderful marriage and relationship.”
Congratulations to you both; we wish you a lifetime of love and happiness!
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When it comes to finding love, some people are more flexible on dating criteria than others; our latest Zoosk study identifies where these open-minded daters live. For our study, open-mindedness specifically describes how willing a person is to date someone different from himself of herself.
After using advanced data technology to analyze nearly 1 million user conversations, our brilliant data nerds captured the following results:
If your city didn’t score highly on open-mindedness overall, you might find it ranked on specific dating criteria. We picked our hottest topics and figured out where the most and least open-minded singles live across the US.
For more information, please direct your inquiries to firstname.lastname@example.org. Like what you see? Find more dating infographics here.
When Tali and Steve were ready for something serious, they turned to Zoosk. “We knew what we were interested in–nothing fake or “just for fun,” writes Tali. Her faith in Zoosk’s Behavioral Matchmaking technology paid off; it led to a perfect introduction:
“We couldn’t stop going back to each others profiles. There was an inexplicable attraction. Steve finally took the plunge and sent me a message. We both expressed our mutual attraction for each other and started chatting. Zoosk messages turned into FB messages, which turned into texts, phone calls and FaceTime. We met for brunch for our first date which lasted all day. It was an amazing day which neither of us will forget!”
Tali and Steve have been together since their first date, and they can’t wait to enjoy more life experiences together in and around Connecticut. We wish them the best in life and in love! If you’ve met the love of your life on Zoosk, we want to hear all about it! Let us know here, and we’ll feature your love story!